Many years ago, a four-year-old girl named Sandra Louise Doty described
what she thought a grandmother was like.
She said, "A grandmother is a lady who has no children of her own, so she
likes other people's little girls. A grandfather is a man grandmother. He
goes for walks with the boys, and they talk about fishing and tractors and
things like that. Grandmas don't have to do anything except be there.
They're old, so they shouldn't play hard or run. It is enough if they
drive us to the market where the pretend horse is and have lots of dimes
ready. Or if they take us for walks, they should slow down past things
like pretty leaves or caterpillars. They should never, every say, "Hurry
up."
"Usually, they are fat, but not too fat to tie kids shoes. They wear
glasses and funny underwear. They can take off their teeth and gums. They
don't have to be smart, only answer questions like why dogs hate cats and
how come God isn't married. They don't talk baby talk like visitors do,
because it is hard to understand. When they read to us, they don't skip or
mind if it is the same story again.
Then she finished, "Everybody should try to have a grandmother,
especially if you don't have television, because grandmas are the only
grown-ups who have got time."
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